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13 things mentally strong people don't do (Don't worry about…
13 things mentally strong
people don't do
Don't worry about pleasing people
Why do we do it?
Fear
Conflict
Want to be liked
Learned behaviour
Parents
Upbringing
Problem
Based on false assumptions
Damages relationships
Lose own values
Easier to manipulate
Can't please everyone
Waste of time
Ok for people to be angry or unhappy
Putting other people first
How to overcome
Determine who is actually important
Stick to own values
Take time to think before responding
Ask yourself
Is it something I want?
What will I have to give up by doing this?
What do i gain?
How will I feel if i do it?
Determine how you feel
Practice being assertive
Be comfortable in conflict
Let people know how you feel
Benefits
Improved self-confidence
More time for your goals
Less stress
Healthier relationships
Increased willpower
Don't feel the world owes them anything
Problem
Stunts growth
Stunts willpower
Unrealistic demands put on others
Feel like a victim
Selfish
Why do we do it?
Victim of unfortunate events
Raised that way
Social media
How to overcome
Be a team player
Focus on impact, not role
Accept criticism
Think about others
Don't keep score
Change behaviour when you hear
I
deserve
better
I'm
more
important
I'm
special
They
are
stupid
Benefits
Improve self-esteem
Learning to give
Thoughtfulness
Know yourself better
Know your weaknesses
They don't give away their power
How to overcome
Identify those who take your power
Forgive those who have wronged you
Change your language
Avoid
... makes me [feeling]
I'm not good enough
I have to ...
Think before you react
Breathing
Leave
Distract
Think about criticism
Is it true?
Evidence to support it
Why i'm i being told this
Do I want to change?
Ok to reject it
More than one source?
Recognise your options
Problem
Offend by single comments
Small things occupying a lot of thinking
Other people control your emotions
Care too much about what other people think
Never put yourself truly out there
Can't set your own goals
Why do we do it?
Want to be seen positively by others
Don't want to be disrepectful
Up-bringing
Conflict averse
Benefits
Better sense of who you are
Your actions will be accountable to yourself
Never be pressured into doing something
Devote time to something you care about
Feel happier
Feel more in control
Live longer