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The library of how to deal with me (the ENTJ) in a relationship image,…
The library of how to deal with me (the ENTJ) in a relationship
communication
understand I am not outwardly emotional and may be silent for long periods
This does not mean I do not care
what it means is that i am focusing on
processing what you said
I will feel emotion after this process
usually, I do not emotionally react until I understand things completely
if you want to know my emotional reaction then ask
otherwise you wont get it cause I don't particularly like talking about my emotions
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trying to understand your point of view
problem solving
hold nothing back
Words and feelings unsaid go unanswered and therefore pain continues endlessly
Even if it hurts or you fear it will hurt another; it is better that matters of the heart are address plainly and directly
this way pain does not continue endlessly but is either dealt with or the parties involved agree to disagree
I am an ENTJ aka a COMMANDER personality type
This means I like a wartime general will do all things necessary to succeed
Emotion do not enter into my thought process
Why
Metaphorically Emotions are the wind in my sails
My mind is the rudder that steers the ship
So from my actions, my time spent on an activity, my mental/physical/emotional energy spent on an issue
Is an indicator of my emotions and the value of something
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what this means for you
I am YOUR battlefield commander
give me the thing you want done i will do it
and I expect my girlfriend to be my queen in many regards (by the way this is finnikin and Isaboe from the Finnikin of the Rock my favorite romance of all time)
cause a commander needs
a goal to which to strive for
a monarch/president to advise
Once i am given my standing orders , just watch me command and conquer
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a vision to fulfil
tell me your desire i will try to fulfill it
as in give me the name of the place you want me to conquer and I will fucking conquer it
Good habits you could do/ do I would love
BEFORE READING ANYTHING AHEAD NONE OF THIS IS MEANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS IT IS MEANT FOR YOU TO LEARN FROM
communication improvements
be clear
tell me what you want, early and often
why
imagine me for a moment as an architect you hired to build you a house
If you tell me you hate something i am doing i will not break down and cry I will try to stop, turn around, and ask for what you would like
If you praise me for something I am doing I will take note and continue doing said thing
I am constantly awaiting your feedback on what to do in order to realistically make you as happy as humanly possible with me.
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tell me your criticism and concerns, early and often
Direct communication
I HATE guessing
Tell me what you want to:
know
do
address/fix
Just ask what you want to know
cause chances are it is
well thought out
why
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not what you expected
Very nuanced
do not ever if you value my love and affection
tell me what i think, what you think I think, or what i should think
if you want to piss me off INCREDIBLY FAST... just try doing this..
I speak for myself. NEVER EVER, tell me what i supposedly think or believe. You ask i will tell you i promise
if I say something I mean EXACTLY VERBATIM WORD FOR WORD what i said
if it requires you to guess or assume beyond the word for word that just passed my lips
You are mostly likely 99.99% WRONG
If you do not completely understand or are unclear with what i said. ASK FOR CLARIFICATION
I promise for everything good and holy I will EXPLAIN
So if you EVER feel like you gotta read between the line of what i said.. guess what
you are wrong and need to ask me for the clarification I will give to you till the day i die,
I live for feedback
I seem so self assured and confident because I am, ONLY when I know what I am supposed to do, or i know what i am doing is good.
you know how I make you feel good by saying i am proud of you?
yeah please return the favor and do the same for me when i do things that are
good
good for my dream of becoming a doctor
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when you approve of something i have done
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good ethical decisions
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bad
bad ethical decisions
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when you disapprove of something i have done
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bad for my dream of becoming a doctor
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Show me your affection in visible ways
though talking
through touch
I constantly desire to understand your emotional state
I expend quite i bit of my mental energy, monitoring your
emotional state
Do me a favor and save me a VAST AMOUNT of mental resources
be expressive , clear, and precise in showing me your emotions as early and as often as you freaking can
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well being
etc.
Understand for a moment
how bad you feel during your extreme bouts of emotion
are equal to my extreme annoyance with dealing with them
Why
I cannot fix or address what you go on about in these bouts of extreme emotion
One thing that would instantly relieve this annoyance would be
ask me to do something of actual use here are some examples
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understanding me videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciekmzk-6Jc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=16KSjMdUW3s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTWCM6mymVc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKcr8sSVIbg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JVX0BXxj2Q
my failures
funny
Refer to the dark blue and understand it took me 8 hours to make this and I decide I gave enough fucks to show it to you
Does this sound like an effort I would make if i didn't care about you
https://www.personality-central.com/ENFJ-ENTJ.html
