Understanding interpersonal Communication (Communication Patterns in…
Understanding interpersonal Communication
Communication Patterns in Relationships
Self-Disclosure in interpersonal Relationships
: The process of deliberately revealing information about oneself that is significant and that would not normally be known by others.
Models of self-disclosure.
Social Penetration model
: A theory that describes how intimacy can be achieved via the breath and depth of self-disclosure.
: The range oftopics about which an individual discloses.
: The level of personal information a person reveals on a particular topic.
: A model that describes the relationship between self-disclosure and self-awareness.
Characteristics of Effective self-disclosure.
Messages( usually relational) That refer to other messages; communication.
Dialectical perspective of interpersonal Relationshups
Openness vs. Privacy
Predictability vs. Novelty
Connection vs. Autonomy
Strategies for Managing Dialectical Tensions.
Content and Relational Messages
: The degree to which people like or appreciate one another. As with all relational messages, affinity is usually expressed nonverbally.
:The degree to which we hold others in esteem,
: A message that expresses the social relationship between two or more individuals.
: The degree of interest and attraction we feel toward and communicate to others. As with all relational messages, immediacy is usually expressed nonverbally.
: A message that communicates information about the subject being discussed.
: The social need to influence others.
Lies and Evasions
Characteristics of Interpersonal Communication
What makes communication interpersonal
: Two- way interactions between people who are part of a close and irreplaceable relationship in which they treat each other as unique individuals.
Interpersonal Communication is unique and precious.
Mediated interpersonal communication
Mediated Communication can feel nonthreatening.
Online Communication can be validating.
Mediated channels enable communication that would not happen otherwise.
Electronic communication often has a pause option.
: An affiliation between people who know each other only in the virtual world.
Drawbacks of Online Communication
Phubbing: A mixture of the words phone and snubbing, used to describe episodes in which people pay more attention to their devices than they do to the people around them.
How we Choose Relational Partners
Evaluating Relationship Potential
I see the person frequently.
The relationship is warding.
Social exchange theory
: The idea that we seek out people who can gives us rewards that are greater than or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with them.
The person opens up to me.
I admire the person's abilities.
The person likes and appreciates me.
We balance each other out.
We have a lot in common.
The person is physically attractive.
Relationship Reality Check
Our priorities change.
Perfection can be a turn -off.
First impressions can mislead.
It's not all about communication, but it's a lot about communication.
Types of Interpersonal Relationships
Types of Friendships
Doing-Oriented Versus Being-Oriented.
Low Obligation Versus High Obligation
Low Disclosure Versus High Disclosure.
Frequent Contact Vs. Occasional Contact.
Short-term Versus Long-Term.
Same sex Vs. other sex.
Youth Versus Mature.
In-person Versus Mediated.
: A collection of people who share affection and resources and who think of themselves and present themselves as a family.
Grandparents and Grandchildren
Parents and Children
Acts of service
Stages of romantic Relationships
Male and Female Intimacy Styles: Romantic intimacy requires that we express ourselves personally through physical contact, shared experiences, intellectual sharing, and emotional disclosures.
I want to know that there is a way to recover relationship. I hope it can go back to our first meet.
What bothers me is family relationship. Like what I said I left home when I was 8 years old, and I lived in another family with half of my entire life . I feel I am closer than my family. But I can off my defense when I meet my family.
What makes me surprise is love language. Talking is not enough for couples. Some other things like touching, gifts are also very important in love.