Understanding Interpersonal Communication (Types of Interpersonal…
Understanding Interpersonal Communication
Characteristics of Interpersonal Communication
What makes communication interpersonal?
Interpersonal Communication: Two-way interactions between people who are part of a close and irreplaceable relationship in which they treat each other as unique individual
Mediated Interpersonal Communication
Cyber Relationship: Affiliation between people who know each other only in virtual world
Why people use communication technology
Mediated channels enable comm that wouldn't happen otherwise
Mediated comm can feel nonthreatening
Online comm can be validating
Electronic comm often has a pause option
Drawbacks of online comm
Phubbing: Describes episode in which people pay more attention to their devices than they do to people around them
How we choose relational partners
Evaluating Relationship Potential
Person likes and appreciates me
Admire person's ability
Balance each other out
Ex) Opposites Attract
Person opens up to me
A lot in common
Ex) More alike married couple are, more likely they are happy and satisfied with marriage
See the person frequently
Ex) More likely to develop friendship with close than distant people
Person is physically attractive
Relationship is rewarding
Social Exchange Theory: Idea that we seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater than or equal to costs we encounter in dealing with them.
Relationship Reality Check
Perfection can be a turn-off
First impression can mislead
Not all about communication, but it's a lot about comm
Types of Interpersonal Relationships
Types of Friendships
Doing-Oriented VS Being-Oriented
Low Obligation VS High Obligation
Low Disclosure VS High Disclosure
Frequently Contact VS Occasional Contact
Short-term VS Long-term
Same Sex VS Other Sex
Youthful VS Mature
In-Person VS Mediated
Family: Collection of people who share affection and resources and who think of themselves and present themselves as family
Parent and Children
Grandparents and Grandchildren
Acts of Service
I think that for me, my love language is physical touch as well as Quality time
Stages of Romantic Relationships
Relational Development involves risk and vulnerability
Partners can change direction a relationship is headed
Each stage requires different types of comm
Communication Patterns in Relationships
Content and Relational Messages
Content Message: Communicates info about subject being discussed
Relational Message: Expresses social relationship between two or more individuals
Ex) As it is usually nonverbal: Boss-employee situation and boss says "Can you help me." that can communicate attitudes like superiority, sexual desires, friendliness, irritation
Affinity: Degree to which people like or appreciate one another. As with all RELATIONAL MESSAGES, usually express non-verbally
Respect: Degree to which we hold others in esteem
Immediacy: Degree of interest and attraction we feel toward and communicate to others.
Control: Social need to influence others
Usually relational that refers to other messages; Comm about comm
Ex) "It sounds like you are angry with me"
"I appreciate how honest you have been"
Self Disclosure in Interpersonal Relationships
Self Disclosure: Process of deliberately revealing info about oneself that normally would not be known.
Models of Self Disclosure
Social Penetration Model
Theory that describes how intimacy can be achieved via breadth and depth of self-disclosure
Breadth: Range of topics about which an individ. discloses
Depth: Level of personal info a person reveals on particular topic
Model that describes relationship between self disclosure and self-awareness
What surprised you? What bothered you?
I did not know that were so many parts to creating and maintaining a good relationship with friends and significant others. What bothered me was the overload of information that I was not able to fully comprehend EVERYTHING.
What confused you or made you want to find out more?
The one thing that confused me was, in comm is there no such thing as Love at first sight?