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Communication Climate (vocabulary definitions (attribute (Regard something…

- - - - When we receive messages that suggest we are devalued and unimportant.
        
        Idea
        
        Most of us like to be in confirming climates because they foster emotional safety as well as personal and relational growth.
      - Also, are typically characterized by causing defensiveness.
        
        Defensive is considered reciprocal in nature, meaning that we typically meet defensiveness with defensiveness.
- - - - Rather than evaluate another person, we might be more effective if we describe a concern.
- - - - Of a control behavior that does not give Laverne very much of a voice in deciding what to do.
        
        In my experiences
        
        It is better when ask nicely to do something to someone instead telling to do something because they know what you mean when ask them nicely.
        
        For example
        
        If I want tell to my sister to clean the house I can see I think it is your turn to clean the house this weekend is it?
- - - - That the real reason behind Vivien's concern for neatness is insecurity, which is based in the fear that other friends or family members will see the dirty dishes and think that it is Vivien rather than Laverne who is the slob.
        
        However
        
        Rather than acknowledging those true fears, Vivien would prefer to manipulate Laverne into feeling shame.
- - - - we signal that we dismiss or are indifferent to their feelings.
        
        By showing empathy, we demonstrate a sense of concern for them and for our relationship with them.
  - - - It is interesting topic for me because it explain us how to support people to feel them better and I like to support people as much I can.
- - - - Willing to listen to another person's ideas is a part of the supportive behavior of being problem oriented.
        
        For example
        
        Vivien should resist the temptation to claim that the tidier person is the superior person.
- - - - Provisional demonstrates a respect for other people's opinions and thus for them, as well.
        
        For example
        
        Laverne and Vivien, we may trap ourselves into certainty when we resist hearing arguments or facts that would cause us to reassess a position we hold.
- - - - How you communicate with a partner and what impact each of your behavior has on the overall climate of communication.
  - - - Gottman and Levenson (2000) claim that they can best see patterns of communication by making videotapes of married couples having arguments.
        
        By counting the frequency of negative communication, they can predict with better than 90 percent accuracy if couples will fail in their marriages
        
        Their study has found that the most crucial predictor is the frequency of negative communication strategies relative to positive communication strategies.
        
        When the ratio of negative to positive communication falls to 4 to 1, (with the dominant pattern being instances of negative communication such as criticism, contempt, defensive responses, or efforts at stonewalling to positive and few instances of supportive communication behavior) a relationship is in deep trouble.
        
        Question
        
        I was confused how it falls to 4 to 1 when I read it, but when you explain me I understand it well and thanks.
- - - - Sharing tasks and responsibilities, partners know that they can count on one another and build a sense of interdependence and equality.