Introduction to Interpersonal Communication (vocabulary (boundaries (A…
Introduction to Interpersonal Communication
Interpersonal communication is when people treat one another as unique individuals, regardless of context in which interaction takes place or number of people involved.
Family, job, school, religions, sports etc.
That isn’t a useful category alone for interpreting if the relationship is interpersonal.
We measure the quality of the relationship often by the length of time we spent together and the length of time we CHOOSE to spend together.
Intimacy refers to the closeness of a relationship.
There are four kinds of closeness/intimacy.
Physical intimacy involves physical contact, hugging, kissing, dancing, sexual, etc
That closeness that comes when you share ideas is intellectual intimacy.
Emotional intimacy is when we share our feelings with another. This includes the wide range of feelings, the degree to which they are significant to you and the depth to which you share them.
I was interested when I read Emotional intimacy it remind me my friends because most if they have something new they like shore with me and me the same. I think it is good to shore with someone you feeling especially when get mad or sad.
Spiritual intimacy is when we share a connection beyond ourselves. Perhaps it comes through religion or perhaps it is through nature or any assortment of ways we feel a greater connection to the world around us.
This is the degree to which we like each other or appreciate each other. We might love our little brother but not like him very much.
This is the degree to which parties have power to influence each other.
We frequently engage in communication designed to achieve instrumental goals such as gaining compliance (getting someone to do something for us), getting information we need, or asking for support.
Examples of communicating for instrumental goals
You ask your friend to help you move this weekend (gaining/resisting compliance).
You ask your coworker to remind you how to balance your cash register till at the end of your shift (requesting or presenting information).
You console your roommate after he loses his job (asking for or giving support).
We also pursue self-presentation goals by adapting our communication in order to be perceived in particular ways.
If your partner is offered a great job in another state and you decided to go with him or her, which will move you away from your job and social circle, you would be focusing on relational goals over instrumental or self-presentation goals.
When we communicate to achieve relational goals, we are striving to maintain a positive relationship.
Have you ever wanted to stay in and order a pizza and watch a movie, but your friend suggests that you go to a local restaurant and then to the theatre? Maybe you don’t feel like being around a lot of people or spending money (or changing out of your pajamas), but you decide to go along with his or her suggestion.
In that moment, you are putting your relational partner’s needs above your own, which will likely make him or her feel valued.
In my experiences
I had many time I follow my friend needs or suggestion and most time it doesn't make me happy.
A line that marks the limits of an area.
Having the necessary ability,knowledge,or skill to do something successfully.
Exempt(someone) from a liability or obligation to which others are subject.
I was confused when I read Sometimes we don’t have a choice about our relationships, but after I read all I got it.