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Chapter 7: Understanding interpersonal communication (Why we relationship,…
Chapter 7: Understanding interpersonal communication
Why we relationship
Appearance: people are more likely to show romantic interest in people who are considered physically attractive, beauty and physical traction us may open doors to relationships but they don't keep them open
Text example: women prefer to date muscular men but consider marrying man with average body shapes
Similarity: in most cases we like people who are similar to us.
Example: people who have similar career goals to us have some my friends and have similar beliefs about human rights
Complementary: differences strengthen a relationship when they complement each other, when the partners different satisfies the other partners needs.
Text example: this failed in tom Cruz relationship wiypth Holmes because he tried to make her be in the spotlight
Reciprocal Attraction: being attracted to someone who is attracted to us
In my life: Nat and Ellie
Competence: we are attracted to people who are talented but have visible flaws to show that they are human
Text example;0: women like more perfect people but men like desirable but human people
Disclosure: revealing important information about yourself there self disclosure can help build liking
My life: relating your own experience to other people's experiences
Proximity: More likely to develop friendships with people who live close to us
My life: my friendship with Emily Pantelief was helped by how close we live
Rewards: often form relationships using the following equation rewards- costs=outcome
Text Example: listening to the ups and downs of someone's love life because they help with repairs
Characteristics of interpersonal communication
Contextually interpersonal communication: : All dialectic interaction
Qualitatively interpersonal communication: this occurs when we treat people as unique individuals regardless of the context in which the interaction occurs or the number of people involved
Content messages: focas on the subject being discussed
Text example: you need to do the dishes
Relational messages make statements about how parties feel about each other
Affinity: the degree to which people like or appreciate each other
Respect: the degree to which we admire others and hold them in esteem
Immediacy: the degree of interest or attraction we feel and communicate to others
Control: the amount of influence communicators seek
Metacommunication : A word used to describe messages that refer to other messages
Communication over the relational lifespan
Developmental model: explanation for how communication operates this broke down relationships and to 10 stages
Initiating: making initial contact with another person
Experimenting: the stage and making small talk
Intensifying: the stage of developing a truly interpersonal relationship in this stage you expressed feelings towards each other
Integrating: parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit they start to use words like ours
Finding parties make symbolic public jesters to show the world that their relationship exists
Text example: marriage
Differentiating: Partners use a variety of strategies to gain privacy from each other, people began to desire individually
Circumscribing: communication between the members decreases in quality and quantity, restrictions strengths characterize the stage
Text: less interest in commitment
Stagnating: if circumscribing continues the relationship begins to stagnate. Members behavior toward each other in the old familiar Waze without much feeling. No growth occurs. The relationship is a shadow of its formal self
Text example: old couple having the same conversation over and over agin
Avoiding: when stagnation becomes too unpleasant, parties in a relationship create distance between eachother
My life: Anthony
Terminating: The final stage of the relationship when it ends. Sometimes couples decide to communicate better and restart relationships others end their relationship here
My life: my parents
Intimacy in interpersonal relationships
Intimacy: as arising from close union, contact association and closeness
In my life: I feel intimant after long conversations and good quality time
Love languages :thereare5
In my life: mine is quality time followed by physical touch
Men like spending time doing things together, women like talking about feelings
Self disclosure in interpersonal relationships
Self disclosure: is the process of deliberatiatly revealing information about ones self that is significant and usually not known by others
My life: telling Ben and Ellie about that
Breadth- the variety of things you share
Depth- how deep the info is
Lies, equivocation, and hinting
Altruistic lies: white lies, the person telling them often considers them harmless
Example: the fish is 5 ft when it's 2
Equivocal language- words that have to meaning
Text example: this tastes interesting
Hinting- subtute use of language that is only understood if the receiver understands it.