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- - - - "I should be liked by everyone"
      - "I should be successful in everything I do"
      - "I should always be productive"
        
        Instead of these 3, replace them with these:
        
        "It would be nice to be liked by everyone, but it isn't necessary to my happiness"
        
        "There is a limit on what one person can do; it's okay if I do what I can do and leave the rest for another day"
        
        "Being successful is great but it's impossible to be successful at everything"
  - - - Criticize and find fault with nearly everything
      - Negative
      - Make you feel bad about yourself
    - - Positive and optimistic
      - Make you feel good about yourself
      - Caring and helpful. Encouraging
  - - - Getting an A on a big exam or just getting out of bed when feeling depressed. Making that phone call that made you nervous all day. All are victories and should be celebrated!
  - - - "I will" statements
        
        Focusing on useful and appropriate goals
        
        "I will study more"
        
        "I will be more supportive"
        
        "I will not take on more than I can handle"
      - "I can" statements
        
        Focusing on your abilities
        
        "I can accept my past but also let it go"
        
        "I can learn to be a more responsive partner"
        
        "I can control my anger"
      - "I am" statements
        
        Focusing on self image
        
        "I am a worthy person"
        
        "I am responsible"
        
        "I am capable of love"
        
        "I am a good team player"
      - Self Esteem is influenced by the way you talk to yourself.
- - - - Body Odor
      - Saying the same phrases often.
        
        Examples: "You know" and "like" (i do both)
      - Doing certain actions when feeling an emotion
        
        Example: Tapping foot when nervous
      - Ways you defend yourself
      - Handling situations
  - - - Financial Situation
      - Sexuality / Gender Identity
      - Relationship Problems
    - - Reveal nothing about their hidden self
    - - Reveal everything about their hidden self
  - - - Your name
      - Skin color
      - Age
      - Varies depending on with who you're talking to. Family and best friends may know all of these but classmates may not know all of them
  - - - We're constantly learnings things about ourselves that we didn't know before
  - - - "Who am I?"
      - "What are my strengths and weaknesses?"
      - Make Self Improvement Goals
    - - Pay attention to people's comments on you
        
        What you do, what you say, how you look
      - Listen to see what they're interested in when you discuss your interests
    - - Reduces blind self
      - Don't be obvious with "What do you think of me?" Instead, ask something like "Would I be too forward if I invited myself?"
      - Don't do this too often
    - - Visualize how different people view you. Family likely see you as someone completely different than a friend does.
    - - Discussing yourself can help you discover new things about yourself to you and of course, new things about yourself to others
- - - - Name search results; if your name pops up that may mean you're "important" or simply well known
      - Number of friends on Facebook, followers on Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, etc. may show your influence on others
      - Some sites, particularly blogs, allow you to view how many viewers it gets. High amounts of views may show your presence and relevance.
  - - - Example: If you're against lying and you lied, you would react negatively to your behavior.
      - Example: Helping someone resolve a conflict will likely make you feel good about your behavior