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TL;DR: How to be an Attractive Man (Living Habits (Get rid of things I…
TL;DR: How to be an Attractive Man
Face
Recurring
Hair Cuts
Todoist
Wash face in cold water every day
Sleep!
Stop touching face
In Progress
Look for product/service
Trim nose hairs!
Groom your eyebrows once a week.
Whiten your teeth
Tiege Hanley?
Wear a face cream with UVA/UVB protection, at least SPF 15 every day to prevent wrinkles.
Use a night face cream with tretinoin or any other similar retinoid
Personality
In Progress
Audacity?
Read at least one book a month
Memorize the titles and authors of books that you've read.
Recurring
Do things I enjoy
Spend money to
do
stuff, not to get stuff
Travel regularly
Learn cool go-to places for friends and family
Know some cool hole-in-the-wall places to take people. Take people somewhere they likely would not have visited if it weren't for you.
Mix up entertainment
Don't stay home. Go where people are
Make stuff happen and initiate things
Social Skills
Only ever use pick-up lines IF A, you're trying to be funny, B, you can pull it off, and C, it isn't the only idea you have for conversation. Just be yourself. Don't be fake.
Stop swearing all the time
Be empathetic
Be dependable
Keep up to date
Body
In Progress
Eat This Much
Stop eating sweets and snacks all of the time
Eat right.
Get foot cream
Get rid of belly
Recurring
Walk/Bike if you can walk/bike
Exercise
Go to the gym
Do Shoulder Exercises
Get enough protein
Take Care of Feet
Wash when I shower
Cut regularly
Walk with a straight back
Drink a lot of water.
Don't really need
If you drink, opt for wine over beer.
Go running at least once a week
Stop Smoking
Fight excessive perspiration. If deodorant isn't cutting it, ask your doctor about professional antiperspirants.
If you use cosmetics, make sure they are made for your skin type and tone
Trim ear hair
If you can afford it and you really like animals, adopt one from a shelter
Drink more alcohol but in smaller amounts at a sitting
Clean your home once a week. A pleasant looking home makes you feel a lot better and look a lot better. Also helps in case of an unexpected guest.
Mental
Have confidence
Try things for yourself, have your own opinions, and express them openly without any fear. Don't follow the majority because everybody is doing it, and don't reject what is popular just because everybody likes it. Base your actions and decisions on what you find right.
Be aware of Attractiveness Isolation. It is the phenomena in which attractive (or intelligent, creative, talented, etc.) people intimidate others so much that they give up right away, thinking there is no chance to appeal to them. If you think somebody is too whatever for you, try getting to know them anyway. You may be one of the few who try and hopefully succeed.
Don't rely on stereotypes. The main function of stereotyping is making one feel better about oneself by depreciating others. An attractive man feels well because he knows his own qualities, so don't comfort yourself by the perceived flaws of others.
Be self-confident. Smile, relax, and keep your composure.
Take initiative
Embrace challenges. When tasked with something that you've never done before, or that you don't know how to do, don't just give up. Try it, and try your best. Worst case scenario, you've gained some experience.
If you want to meet somebody, be the one to make the first move. It's better to try and to fail then to dwell on the "what if".
If you want to meet somebody, be the one to make the first move. It's better to try and to fail then to dwell on the "what if".
Know what you want and be decisive. Remember that you have to come first in your own life (unless, you know, kids).
Remember that you're never too old for anything. If there is something you would like to do, than do it.
Don't fall prey to analysis paralysis. Take action
Stop thinking negatively all the time.
When you do fail, don't be dissuaded from trying again. Take your newfound knowledge and experience and make a more educated crack at it.
You're going to fail in life. Probably a lot. That's just probability, but that's also the cost of success
Be respectful
Get closer to the people and things that make you smile and laugh. Laugh daily. It's healthy and everybody finds cheerful people more interesting than depressing people. It's infectious.
When other people talk, listen with your full attention. Be confident enough to truly be present and listen to people; don't use the other person's turn in the conversation to think about what you plan to say next. If you really need to think before you speak, take a pause. You don't have to gab any time there's a silence.
Remember that people are people, with their own motivations, desires, fears, prejudices, thoughts, and inner worlds. They are not categorized objects and they are not devices to be used. Treat people as people, justly and with respect.
Clothing
Recurring
Do
Dress nice
Wear blazers when you can
Dress a little better than the situation requires
Avoid wearing clothing that are only intended for special tasks. Hiking boots are for hiking, flip-flops are for the pool.
Bring a brutally honest friend with you to give advice when buying clothes
Wear clothes with fit.
Wear short coats or jackets
Maintain
Wear your formal clothing around the house every once in a while, so you look natural and comfortable in it. That way at weddings and funerals, you won't be adjusting your suit jacket or tripping over your heels every five minutes.
Twice a year, clean out wardrobe
Pay more for long-term clothing like suits, jackets, coats, and shoes. Go for quality, and keep it simple and classic
Take care of shoes
Match clothing
Match your clothes by color. Try to follow the two-color rule: a main color and secondary color. Two-Thirds of your outfit should of the main color, the rest the secondary color (white and blacks excluded).
When going to an event with a partner (in business, friendship, or love), dress to match them
Match socks with clothing
Don't
Wear long coats and jackets
Ask sales associates when buying clothes
Go for trendy or short-term purchases
Look like you have been trying to hard with your clothing
Wear sandals with socks. Just... don't.
In Progress
Check Alpha M
Me Undies?
Wear good underwear
Get a wider variety of blazers
Get a good watch
Get socks that match more colors
Buy clothes with fit
Get a wider variety of white shirts
Have at least one pair of elegant oxford dress shoes
Hygiene and grooming
Hygiene
Eliminate bad breath. In addition to flossing and brushing daily, be sure to brush or scrape your tongue.
Take a shower everyday
Scrub chest, butt, groin, armpits, and feet
Have a few towels and change them at least once a week
Shower up to every other day
Always use deodorant
Clean ears
Wash bedclothes at least once a month
Hair
Get rid of back hair, keep everything even
Don't use cheap razors. Go for normal (that's non-electric) razors with sharp and durable blades.
Buy an electric shaver with guards
Find a cologne that suits you
Living Habits
Learn a sport
Watch theatre every 3 months or so
Do as many ordinary daily activities as you can outdoors
Have a hobby. Or two
Learn how to cook
Explore genres that are different from your favorite one
Get rid of things I don't use
Konmari method
Assign a separate bin/section of closet for clothes "that you have already worn but are still clean enough to wear again".
Try to diversify income sources
Get rid of services that suck up your wallet
Do not watch porn
Treat yourself every once in a while