Ineffective and Effective Strategies (Defensiveness and Supportiveness…
Ineffective and Effective Strategies
Win-Lose and Win-Win
People look for a sort of resentment during a conflict which is why some people would prefer the win-lose strategy.
It is possible to turn any conflict into a win-win situation if both parties are willing to do so.
Brainstorming potential win-win solutions, focus on areas of agreement, and seeing the other person's point of view are all ways that people can look into win-win solutions.
I would be bettering myself for a win-win strategy if I was willing to give up something for the sake of the other person and the relationship.
Win-Win strategies also present itself with face-saving.
Avoidance and Fighting Actively
Nonnegotiation is a special type of avoidance where you refuse to discuss the conflict or to listen to the other person's argument.
Gunnysacking involves storing up grievances and then unloading them on the other person.
Conflict Avoidance may involve actual physical flight. People may leave the scene of the conflict.
Instead of avoiding the issues people can try taking an active role, speak and listen, own your thoughts and feelings, and focus on the present.
If I was to express my support, empathy, and agreement, I could be seen not avoiding the issues at hand.
Defensiveness and Supportiveness
People can have either destructive talks or productive talks.
If you put yourself in the shoes of the other person, it becomes easier to hear the resentment or defensiveness which can allow you to create more supporting messages.
Control messages deny the legitimacy of the person's contributions and in fact deny his or her importance.
Neutrality in the sense of indifference or a lack of caring for the other person can create defensiveness.
Superiority says in effect that the other person is inadequate or somehow second-class.
Strategy is a way to get around other people or situations through manipulation.
Certainty sets up a defensive climate, whereas a provisionalism is likely to be much more productive than closed-mindless people.
People can be seen being supportive by talking descriptively, focusing on the problem, empathizing, and seeing equality.
Face-Attacking and Face-Enhancing
Face-attacking conflict strategies are that that attack a person's positive face or a person's negative face.
Face-enhancing conflict strategies are those that support and confirm a person's positive face or negative face.
Beltlining is a destructive face-attacking strategy where you hit someone below the emotional beltline causing serious injury.
Blame is a face-attacking strategy that try to affix blame on the other person.
Face-enhancing strategies enhance a person's self-image and that acknowledge a person's autonomy will not only be polite.
A few tips to face-enhance would be to use messages that enhance self-image, compliment the other person even in the midst of a conflict, and avoid blaming the other person.
I can be seen using face-enhancing tips if I was to keep blows to areas above the belt, make few demands, and use messages that acknowledge a person's autonomy.
Verbal Aggressiveness and Argumentativenss
Verbal aggressiveness is an unproductive conflict strategy in which a person tries to win an argument by inflicting psychological pain by attacking the other person's self-image.
Argumentativeness refers to your willingness to argue for a point of view, your tendency to speak your mind on significant issues.
Verbal aggressiveness is likely to yell and scream, make fun of other, or even attack the character of the other person.
Argumentative individuals are generally seen as having greater credibility, more trustworthy, and even committed.
Allow the other person to state her or his position fully before you respond, allow people to save face, and express interest in the other person's position, attitude, and point of view are all ways to improve effective argumentativeness.
I would be seen using effective argumentativeness if I avoided getting overemotional, stressed equality, and treat disagreements as objectively as possible.
It is very important to understand factors such as goals, emotional state, assessment of the situation, personality and competence, and family history to better select a more effective strategy.
I would be picking a better strategy if I knew what the goal was that I wanted to achieve.
A person's family history may give in sight to what they may fight about in the future.