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Understand a Person (Seeing how they treat people around them. Relatives,…
Understand a Person
Seeing how they treat people around them. Relatives, friends, waitress.How they treat someone else (Family/Friends) Observe.
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Argue with them. Are they remaining calm? Losing it? Observe their anger. Is it volatile or temperamental?
Say no. Randomly refuse to help them out whenever they ask a favour from you. Don’t give a yes every time. Will they be able to handle no for an answer?
Ask their opinions about the person they dislike and the reason why. There’s the juicy part. Do not ask them about someone they like.
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How do they react to mistakes (Own/Other’s) Try making a mistake yourself,
see how they handle it.
Their Social media accounts (Quotes they agree with, Answers they post on Quora) Examine their social media. Posting way too much shows insecurity, a void they’re trying to fill with attention from their followers.
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Do they talk behind other’s back? If yes, then chances are they will do the same to you.
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Go driving with them. Are they courteous? To you? To others on the road? Do they drive safely? Texting while driving? Paying attention? Angry? Calm?
What does their book collection look like? Books are a physically manifestation of people’s interest and feelings. You can learn a lot about who a person is internally by looking at their book collections.
You can't know someone’s “true” personality, because you can never fully know someone else; there will always be parts of themselves that they keep from you intentionally, and other parts that even they might not know exist.
The only thing you can do is take a chance and spend time with them. The more time you spend with a person, the more you interact, the better you get to know them. It's that simple. There are no shortcuts.
By the way they respond (or react) if someone comes to them with his/her problems, when they’re really having a shitty day.
Compliment them. How do they take it? If they just say “thank you” they’re more confident; if they deflect it or compliment you back they’re more insecure.
Do spelling and grammar mistakes bother them? If they do, they’re less likely to be religious.
Do they prefer people in their life to be simple or complex? If they prefer simple, they’re more likely to be politically conservative. If they prefer complex, they’re more likely to be politically liberal.
GIVE THE PERSON WHAT THEY WANT AND..….Sometimes when you give a person what they need (sex, money, power), immediately, they show their true colors. This is mainly true where relationships are concerned.
OBSERVE THE UNIMPORTANT THINGS - this speaks volumes about the person. For instance - did the person just throw a piece of tissue paper on the road after using it to clean his face? Was he polite to the unknown stranger who nearly bumped into him? Does he check his cell phone too often but makes sure no one looks at it?
If its TOO PERFECT - its a RED FLAG - Is she absolutely polite? Very sweet? Exceptionally well-dressed? Well-behaved? Well-Educated? Smart? Kind? Caring? Absolutely Generous? A True Gentle-woman? Well - then you better run away. There is something wrong here. If its too good to be true - then it seldom is too good to be true.
ASK THE OBVIOUS QUESTION - If the person is so so so good and so perfect that you cannot believe your eyes, ears, mind and heart - then ask yourself - then out of 6 Billion people - why is this person with you? Seriously why? Are you god’s gift to mankind? Are you perfect? Then why? What is the Hidden Agenda? And here is also something else for you to think about (especially if relationships are concerned) - if they are THAT GOOD - why are they single?
CONTROLLED OR IMPULSIVE - Here’s a good thing to observe. Does the person look like the person cares a dam and acts impulsively, speaks freely and expresses openly? Or does it look like the person thinks many times before the person speaks? The former is more like ‘what you see is what you get’ - the latter is ‘what you see is what I want you to see’
Emotional Stability
Self-sufficiency. Emotional health. Responsibility for our own emotions. Composure. Someone who takes responsibility for his own emotions, first and foremost, and communicates his needs calmly and clearly.
Critical Thinking real intelligence isn’t about what you know. It’s how you think. It’s problem solving — finding or figuring out the answer, not remembering it.
Friendship I want someone who’s pickin up what I’m puttin down like 99.9% of the time — and making me laugh almost as often. Someone with whom I have an inside joke or two. Someone with whom there’s comfort and ease and play. Someone with whom I’m real and actual friends.
Continuous reassurance. And insecurity. A lot of people say they “need” a lot of texting —some of them require “at least once a day,” and ideally a lot more than even that. The secret win here is that each time they do, you can rest assured it was because they actually wanted to.