Relationship Stages 9.2

Stage 1: Contact

Stage 2: Involvement- be connected

Stage 3: Intimacy- can be open about talking about myself

Stage 4: Repair

Stage 5: Deterioration (reserved stage)

Stage 6: Dissolution- cutting of bonds that tie each other together

First perceptual contact

Second interactional contact

(and sometimes)

physical and mental appearance is especially important at this time

texting frequents

may follow eachother on social media websites

I start to reveal myself in this stage

Ask questions like: What are you majoring in? What is your favorite hobbies?

Breadth: how many topics my partner and I talk about

Depth: the degree to which I talk about my core to my partner

Social Penetration Theory- breadth depth

Depenetration: breadth depth

weakening of bods between the parties in the relationship

first phase: intrapersonal dissatisfaction

second phase: interpersonal deterioration

think

withdrawal

text infrequently

fewer face-to-face meetings

first phase: intrapersonal repair (what went wrong and consider ways to resolve)

second phase: negotiating new agreements and behaviors

Strategies for Repairing Relationship

in conflict resolution

pose

affirm each other

Suggestions for "Dealing With It"

seek support of others

AVOID repeating negative problems

Stage Movement: Explaining the Arrows

exit arrow- opportunity to exit relationship

vertical arrows- you can move to another stage by skipping, moving forward or going back

self-reflexive arrows- signify that any relationship may become stabilized at any point

Relationship Turning points

first

Relationship Commitment-one's degree to be committed to the other

DESIRE

Relationship Politeness- obviously varies with relationship stage

Intimacy stage- should have politeness

During deterioration and dissolution stages- less likely to be concerned with politness

may even be