CHAPTER 10 Communication in close relationships (Communication in…
CHAPTER 10 Communication in close relationships
Communication in Friendship
Friendship is a voluntary relationship that provides social support.
Friends can leave and come into our lives for a reason.
Sometimes we chose friends that share the same activities, teamates coworkers or fellow movie buffs.
Their are also friends that would do anything for you, those are very trustworthy and loyal friends, and good to have.
Not all friendships are created equal. Gender palys a role in how we communicate with friends.
In adolescence ence and adulthood, communication within same-sex friendships differ for men adn women, even if the primarly goal suport is the same for both.
Women tend to disclose personal infromation mroe then men do, both in face-to-face relationships.
Men often experience intimacy by doing things together rather than through emotional dosclosure.
In a study on friendship men indicated they value shared activites more than women did, where as
Communication in Romantic Relationships
In a study of 2,200 participants it showed communication is the highest most important competancy for ensuring sucess in romatnic relationships.
Triangualar theory of love : intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Relational commitment involves a promise or sometimes is explicit-to remain in a relationship and make that relationship sucessful.
Affection is both nonverbal and verbal and usually in romantic relationships.
Their is discrepancies between feeligs and expressions of affection, for example when someone says "love ya" at the end of a phone call, might mean not feeling charitable toward the partner.
Sexal activity is an important means of expressing and recieving afection in most romantic relationships.
Love language: Way of expressing love or in what way you show that you love.
Communication in the Family
A recent study of college students found that their definitions of family contained many of the same elements.
Family is a system with two or more inderdependatnt people who have a common histroy and a present reality and who expect to influence each other in the future.
Family stories often have meaning that goes beyond the incident being recounted. some may reflect beliefs about work
Narratives may reflect a familys view of how members relate to one another for example "we help each other a lot."
One study that showed that families who reualaryly engage in positive storytelling have high levels of family funtionsng and satisfaction.
Rituals are another way family is created through communication. Some rituals center on celebrations: special family meals, cerain types of gifts, and post-Thanksgiving touch football game.
Other rituals are part of everyday life like good-natured teaseing about family members but jokingly.
Intimacy in close relationships
IOS= describes the key element of interpersonal connections.
As you become close to someone that person then becomes a part of you.
Intimacy= is another term for relational closeness.
Robert sternberg triangualar model describes intimacy as feelings of closness, bondedess, and connectedness.
Relational intimacy comes in lots of forms, for example emotional which is sharing important information and feelings.
Another form of intimacy is physical, babies begin to feel this even before birth. a baby experiences a kind of physical closeness with his or her mother that will never happen again: floating in warm fluid, curling inside a total embrace swaying to the undulations of the moving body and hearing the beat of the pulsing heart.
Sometimes intimacy comes from intellectual sharing.
Not every exchange of ideas counts as intimacy. Talking about next weeks test for example is not likely to forge bonds.