Understand Interpersonal Communication (Why we Form Relationship…
Understand Interpersonal Communication
Why we Form Relationship
Appearance affects the early stages of relationship
Ex: the more similar a couple are, the more likely they would be happy together
relationships are better when a partner satisfy the other's needs.
We are attracted to people that are like us
we like to be around talented people
Characteristics of Interpersonal Communication
What Makes Communication Interpersonal?
Qualitatively interpersonal communication
- occurs when people treat one another as unique individuals.
Contextually interpersonal communication
- dyadic interaction
Interpersonal Communication in Online Relationships
Decreases quality and frequency of face to face interaction.
Content and Relational
- focus on the subject being discussed.
- make statements about how the parties feel toward one another.
Affinity, Respect, Immediacy, Control.
Communication over the Relational Life Span
A Development Perspective
- broke down the rise and fall of relationships into 10 stages
A Dialectical Perspective
Connection Versus Autonomy
Predictability Versus Novelty
Openness Versus Privacy
Strategies for Managing Dialectical Tensions
Intimacy in Interpersonal Relationships
Male and Female Intimacy Styles
Most women are better at maintaining intimate relationships than men.
Example: a woman who looks for emotional disclosure as a measure of affection may over look an inexpressive man's effort.
Personal Preferences for Intimacy
Dimensions of Intimacy
- arising from " close union, contact, association, acquaintance
Cultural Influences on Intimacy
ex: public display of affection are taboo in Japan
Self-Disclosure in Interpersonal Relationships
Models of Self-Disclosure
Breadth and Depth: Social Penetration
Self-Disclosure, Self-Awareness, Relational Quality
Characteristics of Effective Self-Disclosure
Self-Disclosure is Influenced by Culture
Self-Disclosure Usually Occurs in Dyads
Effective Self-Disclosure is Usually Symmetrical
Effective Self-Disclosure Occurs Incrementally
Self-Disclosure Is Relatively Scarce
Guidelines for Appropriate Self-Disclosure
Is the Other Person Important to You
Is the Risk of Disclosing Reason
Lies, Equivocation, and Hinting
altruistic lies - harmless or helpful lies
I usually lied about small stuff to make people not worry about it.
Direct statement, Face-Saving Hinting