Principles of Nonverbal Communication
Nonverbal Messages Interact with Verbal Messages
Accent
Complement
Contradict
Control
Repeat
Substitute
Putting extra emphasis on words or phrases
To add nuances of meaning not communicated by your verbal message
For example, smiling when you are telling a story
Contradict your verbal messages with your movements
Used to indicate your desire to control
Repeating or restating your verbal message, nonverbally
For example, waving at someone while saying "Hello"
Using nonverbal communication to substitute for a verbal message
For example, nodding your head for yes or no instead of actually saying "yes" or "no"
Nonverbal Messages Help Manage Impressions
To be liked
To be believed
To excuse failure
To secure help
To hide faults
To be followed
To confirm self-image and communicate it to others
A simple smile or hand shake may make you seem more likable
For example, when I meet new people, I always try to smile at them.
Using focused eye contact, firm stance, and open gestures
Sad look, cover your face, or shake your head
When I mess up, I tend to put my palm to my forehead
Use open hand gestures, puzzles look, inept movements
Avoid self-touching gestures
Dress the part of a leader, display awards so others can see it
Dressing or decorating in ways that show your personality
For example, I wear the more sporty and comfy clothes which may show others that I like sports and exercise.
Nonverbal Messages Help Form Relationships
For example, holding hands with your partner to signify that you two are together.
Nonverbal Messages Can Influence and Deceive
Influence: focused glance, gestures, the way your dressed also shows a lot
Deceive: eyes and facial expressions to communicate a liking for other people
Nonverbal Messages Are Crucial for Expressing Emotions
Nonverbal signs communicate a great part of your emotional experience
You can also use nonverbal messages to hide your emotions
For example, I don't like to show when I'm mad or upset so I usually smile or have a blank look on my face.