Verbal Messages (5.1 Principles of Verbal Messages (Message Meanings Vary…
5.1 Principles of Verbal Messages
Message Meanings Vary in Assertiveness: These express your real thoughts. People who are more assertive they are more frank and open. They will stand up for what they believe in and make up their minds.
Messages Can Deceive: During conversations or messages there is always that case when the person is lying. It is hard to tell when a liar is lying, but some behaviors that show that they may be lying is that liars hold back, they make less sense, give a more negative impression, and are tense.
Messages Vary in Immediacy: Using immediacy is very helpful in life. It shows the person that you care and are listening being polite to the person. Having an immediacy in your workplace is also a great thing to have. It really helps you to be closer to your coworkers.
Message Meanings Vary in Politeness: When trying to be polite it is best to use indirectness than directness. Indirectness makes you sound more polite instead of seeming demanding when you use directness.
Message Meanings Vary in Abstraction: Being more abstract is good, because it help for the listener to know what your exactly talking about without being left in wonder. For example if you say "film" the listener will think of past films then the one you are talking about, but if you say "Casablanca, which is a certain film" the listener then will be able to understand exactly what film you are talking about.
Messages Can Be Onymous or Anonymous: Onymous is "signed," you know the author of the message. Anonymous is that the author is unknown. Having anonymity can be a good and bad thing. How it is good is that it helps people to open up more and share their feelings, but how it can be bad is that it can cause people to go to the extremes, since there is no consequences to the message.
Meanings are Denotative and Connotative: Denotations simply means you'll find the word in the dictionary. Connotation means the emotional meaning behind the word. In our day and society denotation can mean snarl words "highly negative" and connotative words are purr words "highly positive."
Messages Meanings in People: When we say words they can mean many different things and ways. It is how our emotion makes out of it.
There are 8 principles to verbal messages; 1) meanings are in people, 2) messages are both denotative and connotative and communicate objective meanings as well as attitudes and values, 3) messages can be onymous or anonymous, 4) messages vary in immediacy, 7) messages can deceive, and 8) messages vary in assertiveness.
5.3 Guidelines for Using Verbal Messages Effectively
Update Messages: The tendency to still in a way stereotype the person you met even after you find out who that person is. An example would be that people see me as a mature adult, since I have a lot respect and act just like an adult, but when actually they do not know that I am still a teenager and is very young.
Talk About the Middle: When seeing and talking to people are tend to have people on one side. We do not meet in the middle.
Discriminate Among Individuals: Try not to discriminate someone on what you think they are or what they have done You are in a way stereotyping the person when you do not even understand who they are or what they do.
Distinguish Between Facts and Inferences: Make sure you have all your facts straight before you say one and do not assume things when you just look at someone. There may be more behind that person than you think.
Recognize Complexity: Try to not be like you know everything about someone when you actually do not. That makes you look bad and that you are just better than that person.
Extensionalize: Try to avoid being intensional orientation by not viewing people, objects, and events in terms how they are talked about and labeled.
There are 6 guidelines for using verbal messages; 1) extensionalize, 2) recognize completely, 3) distinguish between facts and inference, 4) discriminate among, 5) talk about the middle, and 6) update messages.
5.2 Confirmation and Disconfirmation
Cultural Identifiers: When trying to not be racist or sexist or heterosexist try to make yourself more aware of other societies in the world. Making yourself more in the know about how people in different cultures want to be treated then you will not have to worry about running into a conflict with anymore you meet.
Sexism: This is how we look at each women's or mens beliefs. There is a lot of sexism with women then men. People feel that women are jus tin life has to bare children and be the house wife of the family. That women do not have a role in society.
Ageism: How people discriminate people on their age. This could be from age laws to how people portray people on TV. Using ageism is more common with older people since in todays society we tend to talk more down on the older generation.
Heterosexism: Gays. lesbians, and your beliefs on sexual behavior. Heaters have a tendency to get more hate in life with heterosexist language which is derogatory terms and and names that people give them. Having a mom who is a lesbian , I know they feel and what they go through in a day with things like this happening.
Racism: How we have negative attitudes and beliefs over an individual or society. There is also racist language. This is how one person will go and disparage members of other cultures.
Disconfirmation is a communication process that you ignore ones presence and the communication of that one person., but it is not the same as rejection. Confirmation is the opposite of disconfirmation. You will know the presence of the person and also accept the person.