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Chapter 3.1 The Self in Interpersonal Communication (Self-Awareness (Your…

- - - - Other's images of you: when you wish to find out for instance how friendly you are, you would look at the image of yourself that others reveal to you though the way they treat + react to you. As an adult, you look to friends, partners, and colleagues; if they think highly of you, you'll see this positivie image of yourself reflected in their behaviors, the same goes for more negative images.
      - Comparisons with others: This is another way to develop your self-concept; when you want to gain insight into who you are and how effective or competent you are, you probably look to your peers. Two ways of comparing yourself to others include downward social comparison where you would look to those you know are less effective than you and upward social comparison where you look at ones better than you. For more accuracy and objective views it would often be better to compare one's self to peers who are similar to you.
        
        Social networking sites and social media generally have provided you with the tools to compare yourself to others, these include...
        
        Search engine reports.
        
        Network spread.
        
        Online influence.
        
        Twitter activities.
        
        Blog presence.
      - Cultural teachings: Through your parents, teachers, and the media, your culture instills in you a variety of beliefs, values, and attitudes about success. These teaching provide benchmarks against which you can measure yourself.
      - Self-evaluations: Much in the way others form images of you based on what you do, you also react to your own behavior; you interpret and evaluate it. these help to form your self-concept. i.e. lying is wrong and tutoring someone is good.
- - - - open self: Information about yourself that you and others know
      - blind self: Information about yourself that you don't know but that others do know.
      - hidden self: Information about yourself that you know but others don't know.
      - unknown self: Information about yourself that neither you nor others know.
    - - Ask yourself about yourself: One way to do this is to ask "Who am I?" respond what comes to mind first. I think of this many times personally; asking myself just what exactly I want out of life and where these events are taking me. The song Who Am I by Peace Orchestra always comes into mind for me.
      - Listen to others: You can learn a lot about yourself by seeing yourself as others do. Ever since I have spent more time on IRC chats and VoIP I have gotten many opportunities to communicate with many people, all of them are interesting to talk too and provide more insight for myself.
      - Actively seek information about yourself: do this to reduce your blind self, don't be too obvious but you can use everyday situations to gain information about yourself. "Do you really think this class is worth my time?"
      - See your different selves: Every person you have encountered with views you differently. Try to think about how any of them see you as.
      - Increase your open self: When you reveal yourself to others and increase your open self, you bring into clearer focus what you may have buried within.