3.1 The self in Interpersonal Communication (self-awareness (Growing in…
3.1 The self in Interpersonal Communication
comparisons with others
You look to others to see how you stack up. To feel better some people will look at others that are less effective then themselves.
With the advancements made with tech and the internet/social media comparison has been streamlined
The influence of others, teachers, parents and media that give you views of success or failure. Which may contribute to both positive and negative self-concept.
others' images of you
Is how people preserve you and their actions toward you.
Is your ability to distinguish right and wrong and how it affects your behavior. Like lying to someone will bring guilt which thru cultural teaching is negative or wrong.
represents all the information that you and others know about yourself. Feelings, behaviors and attitudes to name some.
represents the information about yourself that others know and you tend to ignore or are ignorant to. The are tells that you don't realize you have. Like someone who smirks when being yelled at and plays with the ring on their finger.
Is the information about yourself that you guard from others. One of these can be financial status.
This Information is not known about yourself. Neither you or others know, but is revealed when tested
Growing in self-awareness
Increasing your open-self is a good way of growing. As it can lead to closer and more meaningful connections with others.
Listening to other is another good way to help you grow. Paying attention to the verbal and nonverbal information can provide insight to your blind-self and help shrink it.
This can be as simple as examination of interactions you have had with others.
Is your personal view of the value of yourself. It is affected by both success and failure and your focus on them. Most people that have High self-esteem tend to focus on failures. The part most forget is if you learn something from an interaction it was still a success even if not the one you wanted.
Attacking self-destructive beliefs
Self-destructive beliefs are what I view as a should mentality. Which often places a great deal of stress and negativity on someone.
Being realistic with ones self and pushing for just a bit more then before will help overcome destructive beliefs.
Imposter Phenomenon refers to one not believing in themselves, skills or success. This doubt can freeze one's progression in many aspects of life. From work to school. Even personal relationships furthering to Intimate relationships.
Seek out nourishing people
Find people that help build you up with positivity. Someone that is proud to be with you and help you grow.
When in a destructive mindset remind yourself of accomplishments in the past that relate to the current situation.
"I am", "I can", and "I will" statement are another way to promote self-esteem. It is simple as "I am smart." A statement that is true and uplifting.