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Relationships (Communication in successful friendships (provide a…
Relationships
Communication in successful friendships
provide a listening ear
maintain confidences
share laughs and memories
lending a helping hand
share joy and sorrows
treat each other with respect
honor pledges and commitments
have a balanced exchange
stand up for each other
apologize and forgive
value connection and autonomy
Why we form relationships? (260-262)
Complementary
Rewards
Similarity
Competency
Apperance
Disclosure
Proximity
Love
Compassionate love (intimacy and commitment)
Empty (comittment only)
Liking (intimacy alone)
fatuous (passion and commitment)
Infatuation (passion alone)
Romantic (intimacy and passion)
CONSUMMATE LOVE = intimacy, passion and commitment
Relational Maintenance
Openness
Assurances
Positivity
Social Networks
Sharing Taks
Types of Relationships
Low vs. High disclosure
Low vs. High Obligation
Task vs. Maintenance oriented
Infrequent vs. Frequent contact
Short vs. Long term
Conversation and Conformity in the family
Conformity orientation refers to how much a family stresses uniformity of values, beliefs, and attitudes.
LOW- CONFORMITY: individuality, independence, equality
HIGH- CONFORMITY: value harmony, interdependence, obedience, hierarchal system
Consensual ( high conversation and conformity)
Protective (high conformity, low conversation)
Pluralistic (low conformity, high conversation)
Laissez-faire (low conformity, low conversation)
Types of Relational Transgressions (284-5)
Social vs. Rational
Deliberate vs. Unintentional
Minor vs. Significant
One-time vs. Incramental
Stages of relational Development (fig 9.1 pg. 266)
Relational Maintenance
intensifying, integrating, bonding, differentiating, circumscribing
Coming Apart
stagnation, avoiding, terminating
Coming Together
initiating, experimenting, intensifying
Dialectical Tensions 273
Stability vs. Change: acknowledges that stability is important but too much can lead to staleness
Expression vs. Privacy: drive for intimacy and maintenance of space
Integration vs. Separation: conflicting desires for connection and independence