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Reading 3.4: Being with another as a professional practitioner: uncovering…
Reading 3.4: Being with another as a professional practitioner: uncovering the nature of working with individuals.
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Talking to a youth worker, he uses counselling skills, is likely to think they are having a chat
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Practitioners constantly look for needs, patterns and opportunities.
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Clues do not amount to explanations they are just possible connections. I think of this is putting the vets away perhaps worthless today, possibly helpful tomorrow
The focus of attention is primarily on the experience of the person, not on what happened. What has Aaron or Jason made of their experience? What is its meaning to them? Losing sight of this principle is often the cause of failure in our work with an individual.
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- Building a working alliance
The initial steps must be open channels of communication. A verbal communication that starts with where Jason is my say 'you're looking pretty fed up, Jason single'. This requires Jason to recognise, in words, how he feels.
Communication is, through using the same language, adapting Jason's posture or aspects of it – this is called mirroring.
Without pausing the worker picked up another ball fruit through another window, shook his fist and yelled sometimes I get so angry I cannot find words.
We want deep connection with others. We like being listened to and understood. Generally building rapport begins when you begin to give your thoughtful attention to another. What we have explored above or expectations to that experience.
The other deep well of resource is being with another is our feelings or emotions. First we must remind ourselves of two fundamentals about the inner life of feelings. One that feelings are different from thoughts; to that we have feelings about everything. In this work however, through we will have all sorts of feelings these are put to use, almost entirely, in an indirect way. One principle is that we rarely speak of our own feelings. This is because much of our exchange is explicit or implicit about the feelings of the other. These are complex enough. Introducing yours would make the task of seeing where you both were impossible.
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If we see ourselves as gathering another story in working with an individual young person will humble curiosity, expectancy and relevance we will not go far wrong.