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Human Relationship (None (enemy (The man he killed (In the war,he shot at…

- - - - In the war,he shot at the man as he at him,and killed the man in his place
      - If they met in an ancient inn not in the war,they must sit down and drink
      - How weird of the war!The war changed a person and his actions ,and we can't stop it
  - - - The man still lay moaning
        
        He is not waving but drowning, he need people's help
        
        People think he loved larking when he was alive,they think he dead because he had been to cold for his heart gave away
        
        In real life，sometimes people are not waving but drowning,they need help,and what we see is not real
  - - - Trust makes the world go around
      - We trust friends,spouses,schools,policiticans
      - A a psychiatrist found people will find secret through internet or old bills
      - American public feel lot of broken trust things
        
        there are the reports of personal data gathering and the invasion of privacy conducted by both government and business.
        
        Edward Snowden wrote: "Almost everything about the agency's operations is hidden, and the decision to revise the limits concerning Americans was made in secret, without review by the nation's intelligence court or any public debate."
      - No matter how often government repeated, that make people distrust it. It's our distrust of our fellow citizens that we see reflected in our negative attitudes about the government."
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  - - - If you are white,you are a part of me,also I am a part of you. I learn from you, you learn from me.That's America!
        
        The author calls for white and black should be equal to each other
      - He guess being colored doesn't make him not like the same things other folks like who are other races. So will my page be colored that I write?
        
        The author emphasize dissatisfaction on the American white discrimination against blacks
      - He is the only colored student in his class
- - - - Special-interest friends
        
        These friendships aren't intimate and their value lies in some interest jointly shared.
      - Historical friends
        
        The years have gone by and we've gone separate ways and we've little in common now, but we're still an intimate part of each other's past.
      - Crossroads friends
        
        Like historical friends, we shared at a crucial, now past, time of life.
      - Cross-generational friends
        
        Though we may rarely meet, whenever we do connect, it's personaland intense. Another kind of intimacy exists in the friendships that form across generations in what one woman calls her daughter-mother and her mother-daughter relationships.
      - Part-of-a-couple friends
        
        First one: The friendship remains in the context of a group,but we can have a good time talking to each other. Second one:Other part-of-a-couple friends are the friends that came with the marriage, and some of these are friends we could live without.
      - Men who are friends
        
        For these friendships can be just as close and as dear as those that we form with women.
      - Convenience friends
        
        We will help each other but we don't come too close or tell too much.
  - - - Catfish often alone, no one understand, actually need a friend
      - The author is a kind of emotional catharsis, like a free man alone for a long time to find a partner. When they do find a partner, but found that he does not want.This is a kind of emotional expression, the heart is eager to have a friend who can really understand them, but also afraid of this friend broke their dreams.
  - - - The author wants to tear down the wall between he and his neighbor, hoping to open up and trust each other.While the neighbors insist on their own famous saying: a good fence next door, so again and again to repair the wall.
        In fact, the wall is separated in the hearts of everyone, and the author hopes that people do not be so indifferent, people's distance is not so far away.
  - - - First of all, in the first person's tone, the author tells the author's different attitudes towards enemies and friends and their consequences.
      - In the second section, it shows the way and strategy of people struggling in adversity.
      - The third and the four section depicts a vivid picture.In the my careful care, the fruit trees have finally come to bear fruit, and my enemies stole it, and finally poisoned under the apple tree.Apple is to symbolize the consequences to punish the enemy.It's a vivid image.
      - If simply understood as an attitude towards the enemy. The poet is visible from stand firm. He clear-cut on what to love and what to hate.On the other hand, the author expresses the poison, more terrible than his enemy. In fact, the biggest enemy is our own inner demons, these things are poison tree inside us.
- - - - Teaching them social skills.
        
        They devote a lot of their free time to their siblings--more time than they spend with friends, parents, teachers or even by themselves.
        
        Unlike a relationship with friends, they are stuck with their sibs. They learn to negotiate things day to day.
    - - Most parents exhibited a preference for one child--in most cases, the older one.
        
        At first, kids appear to adapt well to the disparity and often learn to game the system, flipping blatant favoritism back to their shared advantage.
        
        At a deeper level, second-tier children may tend to be sadder and have more self-esteem questions.They feel like they're not as worthy, and they're trying to figure out why.
    - - Siblings emulate one another or that the learning flows both up and down the age ladder.
      - Siblings don't mirror one another but differentiate themselves--a phenomenon psychologists call de-identification.
        
        De-identification helps kids stake out personality turf inside the home, but it has another, far more important function: pushing some sibs away from risky behavior.
    - - Boys with older sisters or girls with older brothers were less fumbling at getting things going and kept the exchange flowing much more naturally.
  - - - Quality care they need and deserve
        
        The No. 1 priority has to be making sure your children receive the quality care they need and deserve.
      - Four-Thirds Solution
        
        One parent can work full time, while the other works one third of the time.
        
        Each parent works two thirds of the time--four-thirds total time on the job--leaving two thirds of their joint time for direct child care.
    - - Validating their children's authentic feelings
        
        Authentic feelings are generated by life experiences.
        
        These feelings need to be attended to with caring and compassion.
      - Indulging the feelings intended to manipulate
        
        Manipulative feelings are generated by thoughts such as, "I want attention,""I want new clothes."...
        
        The expression of these feelings need to be ignored, or the child needs to be told that we don¡¦t like the complaining, so that we are not indulging our children in using their feelings to manipulate.
      - Before we can help our children manage their feelings in healthy ways, we need to learn to manage our feelings in healthy ways.
- - - - :red_flag:（1）Did You Say Love at First Sight?
        
        How do people become acquaintance
        
        Physical : Proximity :
        
        Friendships often begin because of a series of unplanned encounters that are controlled by the physical details of the environment.
        
        Prior to marriage most couples had lived in the same neighborhood.
        
        propinquity :silhouettes:
        
        classroom friendships are determined by where each person is seated.
        
        Propinquity Lead to Attraction
        
        People tend to avoid strangers unless they are forced to come into contact.
        
        Repeated exposure to a new stimulus leads to a more and more positive evaluation of the stimulus
        
        The general idea is that we respond with at least mild discomfort to anything or anyone new.
    - - :red_flag:(2)3 Reasons Why Researchers Say Living Together before Marriage is Risky
        
        Higher Divorce Rate
        
        the chance of divorce is significantly greater for married couples who lived together first
        
        Lower Quality of Life
        
        lower levels of happiness
        
        lower levels of sexual exclusivity and sexual satisfaction
        
        Living Together Doesn't Necessarily Lead to Marriage
        
        After five to seven years, 21 percent of most cohabitating couples are still not married
    - - :red_flag:（3）Date Efficiently and Wisely
        
        Get to know yourself.
        
        Look for a potential mate who shares many similarities with you.
        
        Compile two lists.
        
        10 qualities your potential spouse must have
        
        10 qualities you couldn't stand in a marriage partner.
        
        During date
        
        navigate the conversation towards the things at you listtext
        
        Pay attention to your date's emotional health and moral character.
        
        Consider your date's potential.
        
        Make sure you feel completely free to be yourself around your date.
        
        Make up your mind after two dates
        
        Never compromise
        
        End well.
        
        Telling the truth When you decide to end a dating relationship