Gender equality - Why are women slaves?
Gender equality - Why are women slaves?
: WE SHOULD DIVIDE EQUALLY
Right now it is more like 75/25
Women have job + house chores
Back in the days, men would go to work and women would raise kids and take care of the house. With The Industrial Revolution of 18th century women started working for salary but wouldn't stop taking care of house chores (plus they were severely underpaid).
Meanwhile, men would still work the same amount but wouldn't take care of house chores and children.
So why didn't we share equally the amount of work? And why aren't we still not sharing it equally? What would it look like if we were considered as equals? And by the way, why should we even be equals?
All humans are equal in rights, this is not only to apply outside home but also inside. There is nothing that forces one gender, ethnicity or any other kind of people to work more than another one.
This is in reason of Universal Declaration of Human Rights
. And if you live in UN you are probably under this legislation.
ARTICLE 1 All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood
Whereas the peoples of the United Nations have in the Charter reaffirmed their faith in fundamental human rights, in the dignity and worth of the human person and in the equal rights of men and women and have determined to promote social progress and better standards of life in larger freedom,
A long long time ago, before the creation of the first McDonald's restaurant, men were hunters and women were taking care of children and garden.
And even if now women can undertake any responsibilities, most of couples still think that men should make the main income. A lot of couples still think that a woman earning more than a man is a shame for the man.
On the other hand, men tend to think about chores as help to their girl, while they should consider it as an entire part of their own life. They shouldn't feel like Superman every time they cook lunch. If you live together, you both need to make your house a home.
CONCLUSION : MEN = WOMEN
CHORES = WORK
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Monkey sees, monkey does. If mothers did all the house chores, this means daughters feel like they should do the same for their husbands and sons feel like their wife should be doing all the chores.
To be equal we have to forget inequalities we learnt from the society, and this include what we learnt in our primar family too.
With time passing we tended to think that women were weaker and not as valuable as men since they couldn't do the physically demanding tasks.
Men are stronger than women. So they take physically demanding work while women take lighter activities.
It is wrong to think that light activities belong exclusively to women, Especially when most of house chores don't require heavy weight lifting.
Traditional activities dividing is men in the garden or in the garage and women in the house. But there again we didn't sync this rhythm with the modern life. In modern life we have less gardens and less garages since we live in big cities, in apartments - but we do have more and more clothes to wash, iron, dry and sew.
Men are more rational and women more emotional. Men can take quick decisions while women can take harmonious ones.
Women are maternal and want to take care of everything. This is not always a quality and can sometimes be a source of men giving up on work too.
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DISCLAIMER : All of these are kinda cliché but that doesn't make them wrong. In some cases they can be wrong but they are still mostly right.
HOW TO CHANGE
WEEKEND: Since house chores is work, weekend is either free for both or neither.
You can plan according to each schedule. If one works during the night or one has to pick up the kids - then the other one cooks lunch or takes a dog for a walk.
CONCLUSION : The important thing to understand is that it doesnt matters how much you earned or how many tasks you completed. What counts is how much time you spent working for your couple/family. Working from the office or doing house chores, the results is the same : you are taking care of your family.
If you have children, include them and teach them new skills.
Define couple rules : Do you want to be equal ? What does it mean in YOUR couple. YOU make the rules, not the society, not your friends, not your family.
[If you need it] List all activities that need to be done. Daily, weekly, monthly, etc... It can help each to realise what the other one is doing and how much of his time he's spending in chores.
We saw why we should be equals and why we are not. It is now time to look at what we can do to improve this situation. Let's go !
How did it work?
Adapt according to each other's feelings
WHAT DOES IT DO
The man will learn new things which is never wrong. And he will learn to appreciate them more, you know better the value of something when you contributed to elaborate it at least once.
The man is gonna feel more integrated to the family, because men easily isolate themselves from the rest of the family.
The man will feel useful. He will feel the pride of doing something good. Especially since he could have just refused the new dividing.
The man will feel the extreme joy you feel when you make your woman happy. Don't try to deny it guys, we know that a happy wife is a happy life.
Better dividing actually gives you a feeling to belong to your family and reinforces the love.
Better sex life - both partners feel good in their own skin and feel the love and appreciation from their partner.
Teach your kids how to behave: your daughters will see that they deserve a man who will support them on all levels and your sons will be prepared to be an equal partner in their relationship plus they will know how to do things, they will be practical
The woman is gonna feel better which will basically improve the whole family mood. She is not gonna complain, she will be full of energy.
Will feel like her work matters and that she is appreciated - more love and more free time to do her own things. Less stress and tension = better sex life and more initiative to do things (play with kids, new projects or new recipes)
TIPS ON HOW TO APPLY THIS
Be patient, give your partner time to complete a task. He will not be as efficient as you, he is learning.
Offer him guidance in a respectful way (show him how to do new tasks and repeat if needed)
Compliment on things he does good and show him your appreciation and gratitude - make him feel like a superman for washing dishes
Ask for guidance on things you don't know how to do
Accept help (even if you don't need it). The woman has been doing something for a long time - make them feel like a boss
Be patient, you might feel emasculated but reality is different. You are being strong and you support your partner. Only a real man can offer such a support to his whole family.
PLUS QUE BEAUCOUP BISOUS
Being partners means collaborating together and helping each other. If you have a vision of love where your darling is scrubing toilets when you are watching football, then maybe it is time to review what love is to you - or to live with your mom.
Love is 50-50 not 70-30. And it is true also for women. Thanks god men are more and more open but unfortunately some bad girls take advantage of these gentlemen. This is wrong too and shouldn't happen.