The 4 agreements
Theory
What Is an Agreement?
An agreement is simply something that you believe, something you agree with.
The preexisting agreements of the social and personal forces in your life are imposed upon you at a young age.
Most things are agreements: Word, beliefs, social structures, etc.
This indoctrination occurs heavily as a youth, before you have the capacity to decide to agree upon any proposition yourself .
You hold agreements with yourself as much as with society at large. Beliefs in who you are and how you are are agreements as well.
Parents, school, church, and social circles all impose their agreements on you, and as a child, you accept these without question.
The 4 Agreements
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word
Impeccable = "without sin"
sin = going against one's self
Your Ego is an amalgamation of and is shaped by agreements imposed upon you and agreements you hold with yourself.
This domestication is achieved by a series of rewards and punishments.
Another way to look at this is you are "domesticated" to fit into your larger society.
The most powerful of these is the Attention of others. An act that receives Attention is powerfully reinforced and an agreement is made at that moment.
You hold agreements with society at large in what is considered "right" and "wrong" in societies eyes.
Your word is the tool with which agreements are established, reinforced, or dismantled.
Un-Examined agreements developed and reinforced through social pressures as a child will become self-reinforcing as you grow up.
This is known as autodomestication
Your word can go out and influence others but can also be directed at yourself, holding equal influence.
Being impeccable with you word is ensuring that your word does not ever go against yourself.
- Self-Talk can effectively reinforce or dismantle agreements. Your word should only be used to build yourself up. Reinforce positive agreements.
- Question your understanding of others Words. You should watch when others speak for or against you and only absorb those words which build you up.
- A word spoken to another will be reflected back upon yourself. You should only speak such as to build other people up, because that will be reflected back upon yourself.
Your Ego acts as a Judge against yourself, the Victim.
The Judge abuses the Victim in accordance to the Law
The Law is the set of agreements that you hold. Any agreement of what you should be, how you should be, and what you should become is the law which the Judge judges the Victim against.
The Judge is the worst abuser of the Victim.
The Victim will take no more abuse from others than he does from the Judge. Any more, and he will have ability to leave the situation. Any less, and the Victim accepts the other's abuse as fitting and appropriate.
My Agreements
A need to please people
The 4 Agreements