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2017 Monthly tasks (February (Feb 27 - 28 (Asha Project (Her Family issue,…

- - - - Asha's problems
        
        No proper communication with my
        
        Dad and Mom
        
        Uncles and Aunties
        
        Very immature.
        
        Has hatred for Men, thinks that i try to suppress her.
        
        Not open and honest.
        
        Lots of fear. Cant overcome it
        
        Doesnot take responsibility for
        
        her problems
        
        her parents problems.
        
        Doing favour on me
        
        She thinks that i need to pay her for eating her food. She thinks that she is doing a favour by cooking food for me.
      - Her Family issue
        
        took our family goodness for granted.
        
        No attempts to invite our family home or take care of them
        
        Mostly never calls me. Take it for granted.
        
        When invited my dad for Kishore's marriage, even counted the hotel charges invested.
        
        She thinks that
      - Goal:
        
        Live a life where:
        
        Asha and I are loving each other.
        
        We have respect for each other
        
        We respect each others families and have proper communication between us.
        
        Fix Asha's Problem
        
        Not being open and honest with her feelings
        
        Living with fears
        
        My problem in this whole thing
        
        I love her way too much.
        Loving her too much is causing her to take advantage and she is not recognizing the value.
        
        I see myself in her and feel that if she makes mistakes, it might come on my name.
        
        Try to protect her too much and micro manage her to make sure that doesnot makes mistakes
        
        Try to cut her off when she extends conversations. I feel that she is dumb and difficult to explain her small things.
        
        I expect a lot from her family.
        
        The mind says that they should
        
        Give way more respect to you and your dad
        
        not to be a money people and give value to relationship only.
        
        Since i am giving her money, i feel that
        
        When she comes and says sorry, I ignore her real problem and adjust
        
        The mind compares her, her family and our relationship with
        
        My brothers
        
        My friends etc
      - My problem pattern with Asha and her family
        
        whenever there is an issue between us
        
        My mind wants me to call her and fix it.
        
        My Mind tells that if i dont fix it now, it will happen again.
        
        If she talks rudely, when i talk to her, the mind says that if i ignore it, she will continue that nature and behave the same way.
        
        The mind
        
        Expects too many calls from her
        
        says and forces to call her and fix the problem in relationship right away..
        
        With her parents
        
        The mind says that they are LOW because of the way he handled his child.
        
        The mind says that her dad is an idiot who cant take care of his child.
      - :star: What can i do now:
        
        I can treat her as a friend instead of treating her as my family. Dont spend too much money for her
        
        Build my friends circle or other activities. This way i am giving value to the real friends who deserve my time.
        
        When i get thougts on Asha, i will use those thoughts as the trigger points to get back to my Main1 thing
        
        :star:Treat her like a regular friend. A Friend who gives more importance to his Ego and Power over love and relationship.
        
        Dont give too much importance to her and thereby will not Expect too much from her
        
        Dont give her too much importance
        
        See Asha's problems
        
        With Asha
        
        I'll let her take responsibility of her life. I will not worry about her
        
        No talking or very less talking
        
        The more you talk to her, the more she causes issues to you due to her relationship. Dont spend much time for her.
        
        Hire a virtual assistant and have her take care of all of Asha's work.
        
        Dealing with immature people
        
        She is a very good example for me to learn about dealing with immature people.
        When dealing with immature people
        
        Firstly, they are shit. See what they are good at and give that to them.
        
        If you have to live with them, then feel that you are a team and deal with them like they are.
        
        Immature people donot deserve much of your time. Even if it is your wife or dad or whoever.
        
        make a list of changes i can do to stay happy with Asha
        
        Last option: Break this relationship