Lesson 5 ECOLOGY of PARENTING (Child, Family, School, Community…
Lesson 5 ECOLOGY of PARENTING
With All the Feeling of a Tender Parent: A Message of Hope to Families, Elder Robert D. Hales
Moses and Jochebed enlisted the help of Miriam, a 3rd party helper
Priesthood, auxiliary leaders, teachers, extended family, worthy friends, and sometimes doctors and qualified counselors.
5 important Elements to help us strengthen our families
hold family councils
Leave the door to our hearts open.
Liken the scriptures to our lives
Take advantage of every day teaching moments
Trust the good Shepherd
Parenting: the Hardest Job
Problems different today than a generation or two ago
Independence of kids and control of parents need to meet in the middle
pick your battles
not making copies of ourselves, but happy and healthy originals
Child, Family, School, Community Socialization and Support, Ch. 4: Ecology of Parenting
Post WW2 was very rigid, Dr. Spock said to be flexible
4-1 About parenting
PARENTING: the implementation of a series of decisions about the socialization of children
Parenthood is universal, parenting is not
4-2 Macrosystem influences on Parenting: political Ideaology
POLITICAL IDEOLOGY- theories pertaining to government
AUTOCRACY (traditional) a society in which one person has unlimited power over others
DEMOCRACY (modern) a society in which those ruled have equal power with those who rule.
Political ideology influenced by : religious, national, ethnic, progressive influences
4-3 Macrosystem influence on parenting: Socioeconomic status
rank or position in society
LOW : emphasize more obedience, respect, neatness, cleanliness, more controlling, authoritarian, short directives
HIGH- emphasize more happiness, creativity, ambition, democratic, talk more
Different situations because of stressors
4-4 Macrosystem influence on parenting: culture, ethnicity and religion.
Code of conduct
universal parenting goals:
ensure health and survival
develop behavioral capacities for self-maintenance
instill behavioral capacities for cultural values
Collectivistic oriented, amused by people, interdependent
Individualistic- oriented, amused by things, individual fulfillment and choice
4-5 Chronosystem Influences on Parenting
HUMANISM: system of beliefs concerned with the interests and ideals of humans rather than natural or spiriual world
TABULA RASA- the mind is a blank slate before impressions are recorded on it by experiences.
BEHAVIORISM: the theory that observed behavior, rather than what exists in the mind, provides the only valid data for psychology.
FIXATION- a freudian term referring to arrested development
4-6 Family Dynamics and changes over time
family dynamics refers to what's going on with who and how they play out over time.
Children's temperaement: easy, difficult, slow to warm up
Goodness of fit accomodation of parenting
size, configuration, life stage, quality, ability to cope with stress
4-7 Parenting Styles
Authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, univolved
4-8 Macrosystem influences on parenting style: interactions between parent and child
PROSOCIAL BEHAVIOR- behavior that benefits other people
COMPETENCE- pattern of effective adaptation to one's environment
UNINVOLVED: intensive indifferent parenting with few rules
Mothers of competent vs. incompetent children
4-9 Mesosytem influences on parenting style : Interaction between parent and others
4-10 Appropriate parenting practices
DEVELOPMENTAL APPROPRIATENESS: involves knowledge of children's normal growth pattern and individual differences.
4-11 Inappropriate parenting
MALTREATMENT- intentional harm or endangerment
ABUSE- maltreatment that includes:
PHYSICAL= deliberate harm or neglect
SEXUAL- forces, tricks into sex
INCEST- closely related sex
PSYCHOLOGICAL or EMOTIONAL- rejecting, isolating, etc..
GUIDANCE- direction, demonstration, supervision, influence
DISCIPLINE- punishment, coreection, training to develop self-control