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The Six Pillar of Self Esteem (Nathaniel Branden) (What is self esteem…
The Six Pillar of Self Esteem
(Nathaniel Branden)
What is self esteem
Flexible to change
Require work
Trust in your mind and self
Promote perseverance
Self respect
Foundation for respect for others
Rationality
Romance, people attract to other with same level of self esteem.
Low SE bad for relationship
Happiness
Feel worthy for happiness
No limit to SE
Low SE cause envy for other success
Should be seek from internally
Self efficacy
Trust in your own mind and ability
1 Pillar: Living consciously
Be aware of our actions, feeling and thoughts
Not lying to yourself
Being in the moment
Face reality and fact
2 Pillar: Self Acceptance
Be on your own side and yourself
Face of reality of who you are
Value and respect yourself
Accept your feeling
Accept the image of your physical body and face.
Don't deny any part of yourself
Accept the worst and the best part of yourself
Start by accepting your own resistance first
3 Pillar: Self Responsibility
We are responsible for everything about ourselves
, except those that is beyond your control
Don't rely on god
Be Proactive
Take on responsibiity
4 Pillar: Self Assertiveness
Honoring my wants, needs, and value
Don't mean taking from others
Be real and authentic
Not pointless rebellion
Preserver for your goal
5 Pillar: Living Purposefully
Work toward your goal
Specific Goal
Self Discipline
Think Long term
Defer immediate gratification
Taking responsibility for ones goal
Does your goal align with your value
Value SE on your effort , not your achievement
High SE lead to success, not the oppostie
Low SE person will sabotage their own success.
6 Pillars: Personal Integrity
Matching your behavior with your value
Keep Promise
Word match behavior
Honesty and integrity
Address past mistakes and guilt
You are not responsible if you
have no control over the outcome
Evaluate your value
Take responsibility
SE Development from External Factors
Teaching Children
Accept the child as they are
Love should be unconditional
Child will learn to accept self,
their SE will grow
Don't negatively label children
Criticize the child's action only and how you feel about that action
Accept child's feeling
Empathize with the child
No evaluative praise, use appreciative praise
Praise child's action, not character
Consistency
company setting
People feel safe
People are accepted
Everything is logical and just.
People are respected
People won't be humiliated
People are challenge to think
excited and inspired
Encourage to innovate
constructive feedback
Easy access of information to do their job well
Reward far greater than punishment
Leader
Inspire other toward a vision
Presuader
High SE leader can inspire and persuade others well
SE accept who leader will hire
7 Pillar: Proactive Habit to grow your SE
Constant practice of the 6 pillars