expecting men to be "manly" is a proven - and it's only logical - problem. it creates this need for men to bury feelings, be macho, be tough, hide mental problems, etc, etc. men have higher suicide rates, homicide and violence rates and this is linked with these sort of thins. this bullshit role we put on them - just as much as we bitch as it is put on us as women - to be tough, manly, make money, be a good dad, don't cry, don't show emotions, blah blah blah. All such bullshit, whlie the same women bitch when a man tells them to do the dishes.