(Ruling (After reading all the emails from Hari and Aravind's school)…
Hari's Needs (for support)
Need the way to feel meaningful
:lock: WE DONT KNOW WHAT IS MEANINGFUL TO HARI
WORK CANNOT MAKE HARI FEEL MEANINGFUL!!!
SOCIAL SERVICE IS ALSO WORK: SO NOT MEANINGFUL
:lock: FOLLOW AN EXAMPLE: WHO HAS MEANINGFUL LIFE?
MONEY IS MEANINGLESS BECAUSE HARI CANNOT USE IT
Attentive listen with care for his problems
:!?: Not when Maddy have time, whenever Hari needs it!
:lock: Madhangi has problems with time management: so help her with active listening?
:left_speech_bubble: Planning for an active listening daily routine:
In between problems: 5 minute of ACTIVE LISTENING
:lock: Necessity to help family with something!
:lock: Why struggle with brushing, walk in underwear, similar?
:lock: !!! NOT TO LIE !!!
Build up Hari's Self Esteem
Be proud of Hari and show that consistently (thrice more so)
:question: Accessible and uniform parenting
Stop Hari feeling inadequate; here are his list
He was a 50% mark getting student aka C+ student
Extra curricular activities like MUN, Wrestling, Viola
:lock: what else?
Weight Loss and bullying survivor
Dad: Did not provide support nor boundaries
Dad is providing OK support, so Hari will take it
Grandparents: providing the boundaries and not support
Grandfather can be friend but not parent
:open_mouth: Grandmother: Stay away from Hari
Hari's definition of Parenting?
:lock: What does Hari give in Return?
:question: What does a Parent give?
Ruling (After reading all the emails from Hari and Aravind's school)
WE all have had personal failings
But we did not fail because we had perseverance
We need to keep pushing together towards success as a family
We should not push each other away but push ourselves and each other
Mom: Solving all other problems, but did not solve Hari's problem of having boundaries and support
Mom needs to provide the support
RM made HA feel inadequate - Is Hari inadequate?
After 15 just a bare minimum authoritative parent
Until 15 Authoritative and Absentee parent
IS HE USING???