Interpersonal Communication and the Self (Self Disclosing Factors (Context…
Interpersonal Communication and the Self
Self Disclosing Factors
Context of sharing
: Rejection, Negative impression, decrease relationship satisfaction, loss of influence, loss of control, hurting other people
: Catharsis. Self-clarification. Self-validation, Reciprocity, Impression formation, relationship maintenance and enhancement, moral obligation
Social Penetration Model: determines relationships in terms of breadth and depth of self-disclosure
1) self = subject 2) intentional 3) directed at another person 4) honesty 5) revealing 6) contains information generally unavailable from other sources 7) gains intimate nature from context in which its expressed
Face to Face impression Management
Setting: Physical items we use to influence how others view us
Appearance: personal items people use to shape an image
Manner: words and NV
Impression management: the communication strategies people use to influence how others view them
Deliberate or Unconscious =
Public and Private Self: Perceived self = the person you believe yourself to be in moments of honest self examination. Presenting Self = public image- the way we want to appear to others. Pg. 78
Impression Management: Construct multiple identities =
competent communicators are multifaceted. multiple roles/ identities in a day. Pg. 79
Self-fulfilling Prophecy: occurs when a person's expectations of an event, and their subsequent behavior based on those expectations, make the outcome more likely to occur.
Self-imposed prophecies: "this will be a bad day" vs. "this will be a good day"
Self-fulfilling prophecies: one person's expectations govern another's actions. Teacher communicating their faith in a child's academic success leads to higher IQ and better intellectual performance.
belief must be verbally or nonverbally communicated
for the prediction to have any effect
Self concept characteristics
Some people have difficulty receiving and believing new self-perceptions.
Tendency to cling to an outmoded self image even when the new image is more favorable
Serious students refuses to acknowledge they have slacked off
The tendency to seek confirmation of an existing self-concept =
Self Concept: the relatively stable set of perceptions you hold of yourself. pg.70
Reflected Appraisal: a mirroring of others' judgements
Nurturing vs. Achievement cultures represented in family dialogue could effect the message children hear about themselves.
Self-esteem: evaluations of self-worth
Negative Cycle: Low self esteem --> negative thoughts --> Undesirable behavior --> negative thoughts --> low self esteem
Positive Cycle: High self esteem --> positive thoughts --> desirable behavior --> Positive thoughts --> high self esteem