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Delainey’s Experience Being Parented (Me (Middle Child (Tried to fit in…
Delainey’s Experience
Being Parented
Parent #2 - Father
Family of Origin
Grew up on farm
Excellent work ethic
Work incredibly hard
to provide for family
Middle Class SES
Had 3 Siblings, one dying
before he was born
Amount of death in FOO caused lack of religion
Father died when
he was 8-years-old
Mother had more impact in life
Grew up agnostic/
without any religion
More centered political beliefs
Considered more “liberal”
All children attended college
Encourages same for his 8 children
Worked hard since graduation
to make this reality for his children
Helped create work ethic
Parenting style + Discipline
Authoritative leaning parenting style
Used spanking handful
of times
Would spank me when
I was preschool aged - 9 years
Didn’t spank other siblings
(that I know of)
Had problems with anger
Build-up frustration would cause anger “fits”-often on weekends
Parent #1 - Mother
Family of Origin
Grew up in small town
One brother, one half brother, one half sister
Half sister emotional cutoff and physical cutoff from family in the 80’s
Not very close to half brother
Lower-middle class SES
Grew up without religion, although FOO believed in Christian God
Parents more liberal
Parenting style + Discipline
Partook in “attachment parenting”
Emphasized secure attachments and warmth
Homeschooled children for over 18 years
True authoritative parenting style
Stay at home mom - had more impact on childhood
Catholic religion dictated what we got in trouble for more than other rules
Effected my personal identity and self-esteem negatively
Parents still left-leaning conservatives, however political beliefs are shaped by religious belifes
Parent’s relationship
Married at 20 and 21.
Very stable relationship
Have good
communication skills pertaining parenting, finances, etc
Very rarely saw parents fight
Still very happy together / in love
My Family of Origin
Seven siblings
Varying degrees of closeness in each relationship
Nuclear family
Mental Illness
Mental illness is prevalent in several generations of my FOO
Effected our adolescence the most
Unique family quirks
Eclectic hobbies, silly,
loud, unique character, dress, etc.
Catholic homeschoolers
Some accept the catholic lifestyle, many siblings have left the church
This has resulted in tension and animosity with our parents
Some siblings appreciated school background, while others resent it
Middle Class SES
Although techniquely upper middle class, the amount of children stretches finances
Me
Silly
Often used as repair attempts during tension
Independent
Stubborn
This one the number one problem when it came to conlict
Middle Child
Tried to fit in with older siblings
Felt ostracized
Good relationship with younger siblings
“Brat”
My older brothers often made me feel this
Creative
Mother emphasized learning through discovery and creativity
Depression/anxiety
Culture and History
Catholic
Was a part of the church until age 15
White, middle class
Midwestern Culture
Polite, conservative, independent, hard working
Eating disorder
12-16 yo
OCD
Late childhood-early adolescence
Homeschooled
Shaped authoritative parenting style