The 7 habits of highly effective people (1. Be proactive; Be value-driven …
The 7 habits of highly effective people
1. Be proactive; Be value-driven
--carefully thought about, selected and internalized values
Subordinate feelings to values; take initiative and responsibility to make things happen
Don't become reactive people who are affected by physical, social or psychological environment: driven by feelings, circumstances, and contidions
Use Proactive languages
--- a paradigm of determinism
"Let's look at our alternatives"
"I can choose a different approach"
"I control my own feelings"
"I can create an effective presentation"
"I choose, I prefer, I will"
Serious problem with reactive language: it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. --- people become reinforced in the paradigm that they are determined, and they produce evidence to support the belief.
they feel increasingly victimized and out of control
"No one can hurt you without your consent" -- Eleanor Roosevelt
"It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us."
"Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions."
psychiatrist, survivor of the death camp
he believes the highest of the three values is attitudinal, in the paradigm or reframing sense. In other words, what matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life
Adopting new frames of reference by which people see the world and themselves and others in it, and what life is asking of them.
P/PC balance of effectiveness
3 central values
the experiential ---that which happens to us
the creative -- that which we bring into existence
the attitudinal -- our response in difficult circumstances
Leadership vs. Management
"Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things" -- Peter Drucker and Warren Bennis
2. Begin with the end in mind -- Personal Leadership
each day of your life contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole
Exercise: what do you want your relatives, friends and coworkers say of you in the funeral?
principle : "all things are created twice" ----plan first, action to follow
we are either the second creation of our own proactive design, or the second creation of other people's agendas, of circumstances, or of past habits
take charge of your own first creation
find your definition of success
What are the things I want to accomplish?
fame? achievement? money?
-- imagination and sonscience