The Dating Problem (Talk to Phil. Good Possibility. (Talked with him once.…
The Dating Problem
Talk to Phil. Good Possibility.
Talked with him once. He talked about "trying" things out.
How do I get to know a really great girl?
What am I afraid of?
Should I trust my feelings that there is no way in hell things would work with this girl?
Where do I meet new girls?
Ward situation has been a fiasco
Mom's right when she critiques my experience: going to a ward but not taking to anybody
Visiting a ward without knowing anybody
Visiting a ward without a game plan = fruitless experience
"Working on it" seems like a valid goal. But how do I do it?
How long do I just "work on it"?
Talk to a councilor?
Bishop once said, "Go find yourself a wife" ... as if it was matter of snapping my fingers
Always believed it would be a miracle that just happened.
Seeming to get the answer of "just try something"
Could just try the windy park ward
Never liked that ward when I was there before
It's been a year. Things change.
ASSUMPTION: I can only find her in a singles ward
In sum, I've found singles wards to be a drag, a burden, despressing, an nusiance, awful, awkward; counter productive. something to run from , get out of.
Are these negative feelings ever going to change?
A solution might look like trying a lot of different things
May need to move out courageously when confronted with uncertainty.
What are the different categories of "just trying something"? What do these look like?
Living in a different part of the country?
Maybe one "like" would have been interesting (out of several)
Girls I was interested in never responded
Ratio of likes to responses is very high 100 to 1
Lots of dead ends
Talk with Shelly;
She'll accuse me of being in over my head with porn; Falsely accuse! Falesly accuse!
Same with Mark; can not bring this up with him.
The Stewarts have irreperably harmed my interest in talking to them about life matters.
Completely close down the option of actually talking about things. NOT understanding.
Set up on about one blind date a year
Girls are never someone I would have seriously considered asking out myself
Girls are never what I would want
Are they the mirror image of how other people see me?
Talk with Sade
She'll spend a lot of time talking about herself
Could ask: If you were me, what would you do about dating?
Who can I talk to about this????
I have a lot of sisters. But which one can I truly confide in?
Getting help from friends
Don't have a sociable friend who can introduce me to a lot of people
Talking to Amy
Amy is in her own world
Genuinely feel like there is no good option to try.
Could the answer be the answer I fear?
What am I really looking for in a wife? Is it the right thing?
Have I been looking for anything at all?
Is there something about me that needs to change?
What's been holding me back?
Am I happy with who I am?
Am I looking for something I'm not?
What if I approach a girl I'm interested in and it doesn't take. Wouldn't that spoil everything?
Wouldn't it be better to not do anything?