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Relationships (Coming apart (Stagnating ((the relationship may come to a…

- - - - the relationship may come to a standstill, as individuals basically wait for the relationship to end
        
        "Outward communication may be avoided, but internal communication may be frequent. The relational conflict flaw of mind-reading takes place as a person’s internal thoughts lead them to avoid communication. "
  - - - may be a way to end the awkwardness that comes with stagnation, as people signal that they want to close down the lines of communication.
        
        "Communication in the avoiding stage can be very direct—“I don’t want to talk to you anymore”—or more indirect—“I have to meet someone in a little while, so I can’t talk long.”
  - - - Circumscribe means to draw a line around something or put a boundary around it.
        
        "Communication decreases and certain areas or subjects become restricted as individuals verbally close themselves off from each other. "
  - - - Can occur shortly after initiation or after a ten- or twenty-year relational history has been established.
        
        "Termination can result from outside circumstances such as geographic separation or internal factors such as changing values or personalities that lead to a weakening of the bond."
  - - - Communicating Individual differences becomes a primary focus
        
        "Differentiating is the reverse of integrating, as we and our reverts back to I and my."
- - - - We indicate that we would like or are open to more intimacy, and then we wait for a signal of acceptance before we attempt more intimacy.
        
        "This incremental intensification of intimacy can occur over a period of weeks, months, or years and may involve inviting a new friend to join you at a party, then to your place for dinner, then to go on vacation with you."
  - - - Two people's identities and personalities merge, and a sense of interdependence develops. :
        
        "Even though this stage is most evident in romantic relationships, there are elements that appear in other relationship forms. Some verbal and nonverbal signals of the integrating stage are when the social networks of two people merge; those outside the relationship begin to refer to or treat the relational partners as if they were one person"
  - - - Where people exchange information and often move from strangers to acquaintances
        
        "For example, on the first day of class, you may chat with the person sitting beside you and take turns sharing your year in school, hometown, residence hall, and major. Then you may branch out and see if there are any common interests that emerge."
  - - - A public ritual that announces formal commitment.
        
        "These types of rituals include weddings, commitment ceremonies, and civil unions. Obviously, this stage is almost exclusively applicable to romantic couples. "
  - - - People sizing each other up and try to present themselves .
        
        " Whether you run into someone in the hallway at the school or in the produce section at the grocery store, you scan the person and consider any previous knowledge you have of them, expectations for the situation"
- - - - We as humans desire predictability as well as spontaneity in our relationships
        
        "In every relationship, we take comfort in a certain level of routine as a way of knowing what we can count on the other person in the relationship. At the same time, too much routine gets boring so we like to mix it up a bit."
  - - - The desire to be open and honest with others while at the same time not wanting to reveal everything about yourself to someone else.
        
        "One’s desire for privacy does not mean they are shutting out others. It is a normal human need. We tend to disclose the most personal information to those with whom we have the closest relationships."
  - - - Our needs to have close connection with others as well as have our need to have our own space and identity
        
        "We may miss our romantic partner when she or he is away but simultaneously enjoy and cherish that alone time."